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When President Obama (and every other presidentt for that matter) started the job as president everyone made a big deal out of his “First 100 Days.” They used what he did during that time as a gauge to determine how the rest of his 4 year term would play out.

Each of us started 2009 and tried to make decisions about what things we were going to change by the end of the year and usually in our “first 100 days’ many of us forgot what we set out to do, or simply gave up. Well tomorrow is 9/22/09 and let me tell you what’s so good about that… It means there is exactly 100 days left in 2009 and time to get back on track for 2010. Get a jumpstart.

One particular area where people generally make a pledge at the beginning of the year and then fall off is in reading the Bible more, praying and spending more time building their relationship with God. Well a bunch of people on Twitter have decided to start The Last 100 Days Challenge where from 9/22/09 til December 30th we will make a conscious effort to read or listen to the Bible or some teaching from the Bible everyday til the end of the year. In this effort we intend to jumpstart our relationships with God and develop a habit of reading the Bible.

If you choose to join in, it’s totally up to you what you decide to read each day… and you can even keep up with the rest of us on Twitter by using hashtag #TheLast100Days. I’ll be blogging here as well on different things during this time… so stayed tuned. Hope you participate


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I am finding out that much of what we know is based on a lie. Most of our opinions, the way and reasons that we do certain things, our reasonings, our worldview – all based on things that we believe to be true but just aren’t. And it is negatively affecting our lives. The best analogy to compare this situation to is that we live in “the matrix” and devoid of truth. There are some of us that are escaping the matrix, but when we come back to “free” others – it just seems like those that are “free” are trying to ensnare those that minds have been blinded from Truth.

First, the reason why we ended up believing the lie is because most people don’t choose anything to be the definitive standard in their lives. Something by which they can measure their thoughts, actions, and worldview by. And even those who have chosen a “definitive standard” they don’t necessarily subscribe to everything it imparts and if they do; they don’t at all times. They will tend to treat it as a buffet. “I’ll take a little of this and a little of that, but won’t believe this, and won’t do that” sort of approach. This approach or the lack of a standard choice leads people to have a “if it feels good, do it” lifestyle, “if it makes logical sense, go for it” way of thinking, or a “if it’s a societal norm, then it must be cool” worldview. If you don’t stand for something – you’ll fall for anything.

“You have to wait 3 days before you call the person you like. And don’t be the first person to tell them how you feel” – LIE!

“You have to fight and scratch your way to get to the top!” – LIE!

“Marriage is not for today, it’s an outdated institution” – LIE!

“The lyrics of these songs don’t affect what people do.” – LIE!

These are just a few lies that we’ve bought. There are thousands more and they shape the way we see the world. And some of us know they are lies yet we’ve rationalized the failures in our thinking because it’s the only world we know. We justify where we are based on these lies and refuse to change because it would possibly mean that we’d have to admit we are wrong. And nobody wants to admit that. But the problem with living life based on a lie is that it keeps you trapped in a less than ideal situation. Really it leaves them in a destructive cycle.

“And you will know the Truth and the Truth will make you free.” (John 8:32 Bible)

The implication here is that if Truth makes people free, than whatever the “lie” is keeps people in bondage. But what is Truth? This is where it gets controversial, but stay with me.

“Set them apart by your Truth, Your Word is Truth” (John 17:17 Bible) This is an excerpt of Jesus praying for some people. He was asking for those people to be set apart by Truth and he defines Truth as the Word of God. Ok, so what’s the Word of God?

“All scripture is God-breathed and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, and for instruction in right living.”  (2 Timothy 3:16 Bible)

So apparently, the Word of God is scripture, the Bible. And it’s this Word of God that is Truth, and this Truth that makes people free. So what’s the lie? The lie is anything that competes with the Word of God, anything said that is an opposition to it. And these lies are what bring people in bondage situations. Stay with me.

Everybody knows this story of Adam and Eve in the garden. God creates them and gave them the first word that they can have anything in the garden, but NOT to touch the tree that was in the middle. And he tells them that if they touch the tree that then they would surely die. This was the Word from God, it was Truth for them. Then comes the serpent, and tells them that if they touched the tree that they WOULD NOT die. This is a word that competed with and opposed God’s Word. And yet when they chose to obey the lie, they ended up in the bondage situation.

I think that most of us think that we are smarter than God. He tells us stuff like, “I think it’s a good idea to wait until marriage to do the sex thing” and our worldview is that we should have sex as often as we feel like it as a single person. In fact, it’s called dating, right?  Yet we think that God is putting us in bondage with his “rules” and we are living free when we are in violation of them. But He was trying to save us a lot of heartache. We did it our way and created situations of all kinds of new diseases, emotional drama related to having a connection with a bunch of partners, unwanted pregnancies, and all sorts of things related to sex.

Speaking of sex, everything we know about sex is based on a lie. Somewhere along the lines we thought that sex was supposed to be mysterious. We started out having sex in high school and started sneaking around, so we think there should be an element of danger involved. We think that it’s always supposed to happen with the lights out. We think that we have to be drunk or tipsy to enjoy it or to let our inhibitions down. Then we get into committed relationships and marriages and carry these lies into something that God created and those attitudes don’t work there. Since the element of danger is gone, the mysteriousness lost, people start to think that their sex lives are boring. Instead of understanding that there is a whole level of honesty, openness, and intimacy involved in married sex that single people will never understand.

I am probably hung up on living life based on the lie in the area of relationships because of recent conversations that I have had with people. But this problem extends in all directions and areas of our lives like character issues, financial, issues with family, parenting, and many others. It’s hurting us. Steve McNair died because he believed the lie that his marriage wasn’t enough. Today I was watching the show Gotti’s way, and Irv Gotti is destroying his family because he believes that he can have a woman on the side and still not affect his children and family.

The Truth is not designed to bind us up. It’s designed to have us live in the most free life possible, where there is no regret and little pain. We let the lie convince us that it’s the other way around – that if we do it God’s way that we will miss out. You’ll miss out alright. You will miss out on the hurt, the pain, the frustration, the guilt, the shame, running to drugs, alcohol and promiscuity to numb the pain and the problem of not being able to look at yourself in the mirror because of things you’ve done in your past. There is much I can say on this topic. But for now. Find out what the Truth is, give it a shot, and see that when you escape “the matrix” won’t your life be better.

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How long do you allow someone to stay down or harbor resentment and disappointment about a dream deferred or when life does not exactly go the way they planned it… even in a once in a lifetime event? Is it a year.. or longer? I suppose this can be a quantifiable amount of time. You might even be able to assign appropriate grieving time based on certain situations or more generously on a case by case basis. The point being, and probably with a great amount of consensus, that there comes a time to “get over it.” 

I don’t particularly mean that in an insensitive way, but rather just the opposite. It is more detrimental to a person to continue to let an incident that did not go as planned in your past to continue to haunt their present day and future. Maybe haunt is not a strong enough word. In some cases, a past let-down will control the present. It can stifle progess. You just can’t get past it.

There are a couple ways to realize if you are allowing a past disappointment to control your present day.

1. Whenever you encounter things that remind you of the let-down you can hardly stand to engage in it: I had a friend who was looking for employment for a long time after graduating from college. He started out gung-ho in the process but because his plan of working in a job closely related to his degree did not come to fruition in the time he had planned it greatly caused him distress. It got to the point that he could not even look for a job anymore, though he was literally sinking into debt and bills were going unpaid.

 2. Whenever think about and especially talk about it– it brings back the pain even to the point of tears: This is a point I learned from my wife. She once told me about her mother used to have a hard time discussing some things in her own personal life. My wife told me that whenever the discussion came up, she would wave it off, change the subject or allow it to bring her to a point of crying. She told me that she remembered a day when her mother was able to freely speak about it– unashamed and even give advice and counsel people concerning the same. that was the day she was free. But if everytime a situation is brought up.. tears flows, you are allowing it to control your present day

3. You let the past situation poison relationships or endeavors: Relationships are important. As a matter of fact, there is little if nothing at all that you can do to progress in life outside of relationships. As the saying goes..”no man is an island.” Every person is at his poorest relational point AT LEAST, a peninsula. You need people in your life, but if you are allowing offense or past disappointment to cause resentment in your relationship, it is controlling your present day. It can even be something subtle that is lying below the surface that is causing you to not fully give yourself or trust others in important relationships. You can even have seemingly happy and functional married couples who have something underlying causing it from reaching the next plateau that marriages typically graduate into. That is very dangerous. It can even be that one of the parties in the relationship doesn’t even know that there is a problem.

4. You lie to yourself and others regarding the problem: There are people who say that if you lie to yourself long enough that even you will begin to believe the lie. I don’t know if that is true in every case. Because every time that you tell that lie you are the one that knows it’s a lie. What actually happens is that you learn to live with the lie, until it comes to a point where it can not be contain or covered any longer. What is in the dark will always be reveale and come to the light. My point is that you can be dishonest and cause everyone to believe that the situation doesn’t bother you anymore about the problem, but the very fact that you don’t let the truth be known shows that you allow the situation to control your ethics, honesty and integrity.


Now don’t get me wrong, it is normal and acceptable to be and display disappointment and hurt. You can’t heal a wound by saying that it’s not there. That’s insane. By pretending that you are not hurt or disappointed will only stand to hurt you more as you continue to try to function

normally with an injury. I remember running track in high school and having a stress fracture in my foot. I wanted to keep running on it and not let anyone know so when asked how I was feeling, I kept saying that everything was alright. Well, naturally the injury got worse because I tried to continue to function in a normal way on something that needed recovery. The same holds true in your life with let-down and disappointment.

So it is understandable that to be hurt when things don’t go your way. In fact, the Bible says that “hope deferred makes the heart sick.” So naturally people become “heart sick” when their expectations don’t happen. But the Bible also says to place you hope (expectation) in God. I am not saying God caused the thing to not go right, but I am saying that by shifting your expectation in what he can do, you will be able to move on a get a different outcome. Things may not be the same again (and you may not be able to go back and change it), but that doesn’t mean that God can’t make it good again.

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“Only by pride comes contention, but with the well advised is wisdom” -Proverbs 13:10

I read this passage this morning and it spoke volumes to me. It was the answer to the question why people fight or argue each other (in general).

Pride can best be described as feeling that your own way is superior to others’ way. It is feeling and showing that it’s “my way or the highway” with no consideration that you could be wrong or that there are other available options or ideas. If you are open to the idea that “it’s possible that I don’t know everything,” then you can avoid most contention issues. Because it’s at that point that others feel like they can truly talk things out with you.

I like the last part “but with the well-advised there is wisdom.” Once you get over the idea that you know-it-all you become teachable. You are able to be advised by others- even “well advised” and can add wisdom to your knowledge bank.

Davidism #19 – Stop being a know-it-all so you can Stop Having Stupid Fights!

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I bet Miss California Carrie Prejean thinks that she drew the short straw. I wonder if she replays in her mind how the “luck of the draw” landed her with a situation where she was faced with taking a stand for something that she believed when the contestant right before her only had to answer how she got her nickname. At guess that these thoughts are really of no consequence at this point because what’s done is done. She had to answer the question in a nationally televised pageant about what she believed about gay marriage. And to everyone’s surprise she boldly stated that while she respects people’s right to choose what type of relationship they wanted to be in, she believed that marriage was between a man and a woman. It was an interesting chain of events. Everyone probably thought that it would go over smoothly. I mean, she was from the state of California where anything goes, she was asked the question by gay pageant judge and blogger Perez Hilton. Pageants are where people give “safe” answers. It was all supposed to go so different. But it didn’t.

Immediately after she answered the question all hell broke loose. Perez Hilton went on a rampage both on his blog and I think I even saw him on Larry King. I’m confused about the backlash. If they wanted her to give a certain answer, why didn’t they show her a cue card. Now the latest is what prompted me to write this post today. Somebody has leaked nude pictures of Miss California when she was 17. I saw that news today while watching Headline News today. Caller after caller called into the show calling her a “hypochristian” (a play on the word hypocrite, if you didn’t get it.) The segment was titled, “Can A Nude Model Be A Model Christian”

Here are my quick thoughts:

1. The message of Christianity is forgiveness: Christians aren’t perfect. Just forgiven. Carrie Prejean stated that the pictures were taken when she was a minor. Chances are she may not have even been a Christian then. She said that she made a mistake. As long as she has made it right with God she doesn’t need the approval of anyone else.

2. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone: Yes, it’s important for Christians to be good examples to the unbeliever and I agree that if she was a believer at that time she should have had a higher standard. But the fact of the matter is that we don’t know all the details surrounding that time and neither is it any of our business. All the people that were calling in or have some sort of opinion on the matter, isn’t it nice that your life isn’t on display so that we can see what you have done in the booth, in the back, in the corner and in the dark

3. Attacked for her stand: I absolutely believe that she is being attacked for her stand and I don’t think that’s fair. It doesn’t matter what side of the issue you are on. She should be entitled to her opinion/belief. If she had gotten up there and stated the opposite opinion then there would have been another group upset. I commend her for going against the grain. It seems controversial. But truth is always controversial. (I’m sure a few of you are not going to like that. But I don’t care.)

4. Do I think she should lose her crown: Yes, but not because she posed naked. She should lose her crown because she signed a contract upon entering this pageant that said that she has not taken any inappropriate pictures. And she flat lied. I have a bigger problem with her lack of integrity then her being nude in those pictures.

I could go on. I won’t.

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